If you really want to feel happier and live a life of joy, quit
these 10 habits that destroy your happiness in life. According to
FactHacker, overlooking these danger signs could be catastrophic.
1. Negative Self-Talk
Most of the time, we ourselves are our own worst critics. Only you
know yourself best. You know your weaknesses and shortcomings. In our
minds we talk badly about ourselves all day long, often without even
realizing we’re doing so. Unfortunately, negative self-talk is one of
the fastest ways to make yourself unhappy.
Ask yourself: What kind of mental talk do I engage in with myself?
Be aware of these silent conversations you have in your head and replace
negative terms with gentler, more constructive ones.
Instead of talking badly about yourself, be kind to yourself. We’re
all here trying to do the best we can, so cut yourself some slack and
reward yourself with some credit. Over time, this positive habit will
help you progress in your path towards happiness.
2. Blaming Other people
A researcher named Brené Brown describes “blaming” as nothing other
than one’s attempt to discharge pain — we feel pain, we automatically
want to blame something or someone. Most human beings have a natural
response to look for something else or someone else to blame as the
cause for their pain or suffering. Through blaming, we can help reduce
our pain. Believe it or no blaming is rather effective. But the problem
here is that its effect doesn’t last long enough and we often misuse
blaming.
To help stop yourself from your tendencies to blame, learn to take
full responsibility for your actions/decisions and take look beyond the
real issue of your problems and instead find solutions. Be aware of the
times when you find yourself blaming others then strive respond
differently. Do so, and find greater happiness.
3. Being a Control Freak
Trying to control everything is impossible and will only lead to
your unhappiness. The truth is no one has the ability or absolute power
to control everything. Control is something that many of us find hard to
give up because we think that being in control gives us more sense of
safety or security. The thing is it never works and we only end up
seeking to control more and more.
The only thing in life that we really can control is our own
attitude and reaction to the situations we find ourselves in. Make a
conscious effort to respond positively to the things you cannot control
and feel more peace and happiness.
4. Not Living in Gratitude
Withholding gratitude in a habit that contributes to one’s
unhappiness. Gratitude is actually one of the fastest ways to help you
achieve happiness and its opposite is also true if it is your habit to
withhold gratitude. Ingratitude leads to a build up of misery from the
inside.
If practicing constant gratitude is a new habit for you, you can
start by noticing even the littlest of things you can be thankful for
and making a mental note. The fact is even in the darkest of days, you
can find something to be grateful for. Be thankful for each small
blessings that come into your life and you will notice the good things
soon start to multiply. Focusing on what you do have instead of the
things you don’t have is great way to find more happiness.
5. Criticizing others
People who lack a healthy sense of self-worth are known to
constantly criticize other people. Unhappy people often reflect their
own self-judgment by pointing out other people’s faults in an attempt to
hide their own fears of being seen as faulty.
No one is perfect and if you want to truly be happy, accept your
shortcomings as well as those of others. Much like you, they also want
to work towards their own happiness. Avoid criticizing others so you can
begin to find greater happiness in your life.
6. Numbing, Substance Abuse and Addiction
Do you use alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, or even food and other
substances to try to feel good or to numb yourself to escape your
problems? Constantly seeking happiness in a bottle of beer or a tub of
your favorite ice cream might feel good when you do it, but in the long
run is actually robbing you of your own happiness. This is true most
especially if you’re not doing anything at all to really solve your
problems other than numbing out.
If you find yourself constantly relying on your addictions for some
good time, it’s probably time to evaluate yourself and try quitting
your bad habits once and for all. Who knows it may already be adding
more problems to your life. You can find many resources both online and
offline to help you quit your addictions so you can start your journey
towards real, lasting happiness.
7. Not Working Towards Your Goals
Amazing things don’t usually happen overnight. On the same note,
time passes by whether you like it or not. When you think about all the
time you wasted when you didn’t work hard to achieve your goals or
dreams, it can greatly diminish your happiness.
If you have a long-term goal or a dream you have always wanted to
fulfill, the best way to be happy is to take regular steps each day
towards making it happen.
8. Procrastination
When we put off the things we should be doing, it doesn’t eliminate
it but rather creates even a bigger task for us to fulfill later on.
Procrastinating creates stress.
Avoid the snowball effect of procrastinating. You can do this by
evaluating the most important things you need to do and simply create a
plan of how to do it – then stick with it. Sometimes the most routine
and boring things are also the things that are most important.
9. Not Living in The Present
You cannot see, appreciate and feel all the happiness you could if
you keep thinking about your past or regretting things from your past
that you can no longer change. Likewise, if you keep obsessing about
your future, you could be missing out on what’s already right there in
front of you. While it’s good to learn from your past and wise to plan
your future, try not to dwell on them too much in such a way that you’re
not living in the present moment.
10. Not Being Yourself
Everyone born in this world is a unique individual. No one is
exactly like you and no one can offer the world the gifts only you have.
If you want to live a happier life, then stop trying to be someone
you’re not. Instead, love yourself for who you are and be who you are.
When we act in ways that are not who we really are, we pay the price in
our happiness.
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