There
are certain behaviours that are generally considered quite negative and
sometimes weird, but which are completely normal. These are some of
them.
Illustrative purpose
The most healthy behaviour is simply for you to be authentic. Yet
often we avoid our own authentic behaviors thinking they are unhealthy
ones. Your own mind and body know what you need. And if you need a
reminder why it is important to follow your authentic self, look at
these common behaviors which are often considered negative which can
actually be healthy.
1. Anger
Anger is something many of us avoid expressing and yet it can often
be very liberating. Being angry and expressing it in a healthy way can
create powerful and positive change in our lives. Anger is simply a type
of emotional energy that rises up in us when we have been wronged and a
personal boundary has been crossed. That energy is set out on a mission
to dismantle the inappropriate situation that has caused our suffering.
So, learn how to embrace that energy and put it to positive use.
When you become angry, examine how you can express that anger in a
positive way that will create change for the better. It is when we deny
our anger and avoid it that it can turn into more unhealthy ways of
being, such as rage or depression. Know that healthy anger is there for a
reason, to be your protector and liberator.
2. Being Lost
We are feeling lost when we have lost our sense of direction. Yet
when we are lost, it makes us pay attention to the moment and to our
instincts. If you have ever been lost in a big city or a foreign land,
you likely also made some wonderful discoveries while trying to find
your way.
The same is true for life. Be okay with knowing it is the journey
that is important, and sometimes in being lost and going down paths we
never would have thought to choose we find out things about ourselves
that are amazing. We discover unknown talents in ourselves, and meet
friends or allies who otherwise would have remained a mystery. Being
lost now doesn’t mean you will be lost forever. It simply means you are
taking your time in finding your way, and also allowing the world around
you to give input into the path which is best for you. Often it is that
input we never would have dreamed to ask for that sets us on our true
path.
3. Crying
Crying, like anger, is a healthy human emotional response to
certain situations. Although few of us would want to be crying all the
time, it is important to honor those times in life which may bring us to
tears. Those tears can be tears of loss but also of joy. When we cry,
it helps our psyche unleash energy that if we were to hold on to may
become toxic or make us rigid.
Crying also softens our personalities as well as our appearance to
the outside world, letting others know we feel, care, grieve and are
effected by the world around us. So, crying not only lets us release our
grief and sorrow, but also sends a signal to others that we are open
and vulnerable as human beings, making us more attractive as friends and
partners than those who never shed a tear for any reason.
4. Being alone
Being alone doesn’t have to be seen in a negative way and often can
mean that we are just cutting off some of the not necessary social
activities to dive into a deeper level of our being. It’s true that
there are some situations where a person isolating themselves might be a
reason of concern, but know as well that many of the worlds greatest
artists, writers and thinkers found supreme value in solitude to find
deeper inspiration and re-ignited their sense of creativity. Sometimes
we just need to turn off the external stimuli and be with ourselves.
If you are feeling the need to be alone, trust and honor it.
Sometimes a walk by yourself in the park, or even going on a solo
vacation can lead to a level of self reflection that completely renews
our sense of purpose. In some situations, the most healthy thing you can
do for yourself is to be alone.
5. Not listening
Not listening to others may often be seen as an anti-social or even
arrogant form of behavior, and yet there are times when you need to
just go on your own intuition and be free with what your inner calling
is. Keeping your eye on a strong vision sometimes requires you to ignore
or tune out those voices who may not understand or be in alignment with
that vision. Trust yourself and know that if advice is being given to
you there may be some very good reasons not to listen to it.
Not listening can also simply display a level of discernment, as we
have all seen those people who listen to what everyone else tells them,
and how they can often appear to be captains on a rudderless ship,
lacking an internal strong sense of direction. Be wise and know when to
listen to others and when not to. If that inner bell says to go on your
own gut feeling in spite of what others say, then trust it.
6. Breaking the rules
Breaking the rules at times can improve your life, as well as the
lives of others. Rules are made by people, and none of us are perfect.
So, trust in your own ability to find the heart behind the rule, and
then decide for yourself if that rule promotes the greater good. Most
innovations in art, science and society happen because someone stopped
abiding by the rules as they were written and had the courage to
challenge those rules that were unjust. Some of the world’s great rule
breakers were Rosa Parks, Gandhi, John Lennon, and Martin Luther King
Jr. Don’t be afraid to be like them.
7. Not fitting in
Not fitting in can be painful and awkward, especially during
teenage years, but it can also mean you’re an innovator and that you
have something to offer beyond the norm. When we fit in, it is usually
because our thoughts, feelings and even our imagination is in tune with
our community. Stepping outside that box of what others might expect of
us can lead us into a place of not fitting in, but it can also lead us
to explore outside the zone of commonly accepted beliefs and thoughts,
which is the fertile ground for new ideas and new ways of thinking that
beget innovation.
The future never fits nicely into the past, so embrace who you are
in the now even if it doesn’t fit in with others. Know that your
innovations may forge a new path that others may eventually follow.
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- Written by Reiki master Brett Bevell, an author of several books, including Energy Healing for Everyone
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