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Lagos-based Psychologist and Relationship therapist, Joro Olumofin, has
taken to his Instagram to share an interesting piece. It's a must read
for single guys and babes.
This Journal Encompasses:
1. Definition Of an Overachieved Single Lady
2. The Irony Of Men in their Life
3. Their struggle
4. Recommendation
1. Who is an Overachieved Single Lady
Any lady who is "age" ready for marriage, earns more than enough
money to take care of herself and can also afford luxury, owns a very
lucrative business or franchise. These ladies are usually between ages
29-35. They have masters degrees, some have Phd., 6-15 years Working
experience.
They are the masters in their respective fields. Because of their
single status, their one true love is success and prominence. Success
doesn't break hearts, Success is not a Fuckboy, success makes them feel
whole and complete. So they love and nurture the success.
2. The Irony of men in their life
The irony is tricky and hilarious. We men complain that ladies are
materialistic and only take from us without giving back but when we meet
a lady who is successful and independent we get intimidated, our Ego or
Manhood is challenged and we act in ways these ladies don't understand.
Men react to Overachieved ladies in 3 major ways (1) The deflated
Ego (inferiority Complex) (2) The "Mr I don't need your money"
(Aggressive) and (3) Mr "Epp" me (Extortionist).
The Deflated Ego: When some men encounter a lady who drives a
better car than their car, lives in a better area, earns more money than
he does. He feels so intimidated that he runs away. He goes into a
shell. His Ego is deflated, he believes what can I offer her that will
make her respect me like a man. She is too manly for me. I need someone
who will fear and respect me.
"Mr I don't need your money": These type of men demand respect,
they are usually over aggressive and are always out to prove a point
that they are not intimidated by the lady's money or success. Some of
these men result in physical violence to gain dominance and respect from
Overachieved women. If you have more money, I have more muscle than you
and I will beat you so you will fear and respect me.
Mr "Epp" me: Overachieved Ladies, beware of these guys. From the
moment he sees you, he has seen Central Bank Plc, ATM card, Water
Dispenser, puff puff, Coke and Fanta. He sees you as his treasure, he
will manipulate you until you cut everyone who will give you tangible
advise off. He doesn't have a job, but always has a big master plan
which he needs you to fund for him. He will suck you until there's
nothing left. Most times guys like this Use Overachieved ladies as a
stepping stone to meet their main love.
3. The Struggles of an Overachieved Lady
-Most Overachieved ladies are between ages 29-38. Most men between
29-38 are either married, committed by Baby Mama or Engagement to
another woman or have a baggage most women can't even burden. So where
do Overachieved ladies find love?
-Because of their success, they appear too manly and too confident
which is sometimes a turnoff to men. Should they pretend to be timid to
get a man?
-3 out of 5 men are interested in their money or ATM cards so how
do they know who is who? (4) Some Overachieved ladies have lived by
themselves for so long and they have been independent for too long so
things like washing plates, washing boxes, cleaning shoe is an
abomination to them. Do they compromise?
4. Recommendation
With patience, time and alot of compromise Love will come, but
don't ever buy love or let your relationship be about money. Once you
give a man power over your finances you can't take it back. At that
moment you just adopted a child who's your boyfriend. You will feed him
and nurture him forever.
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