A man has told the story of how even his parents failed to turn up for his wedding because his wife was disabled.
Isaac and Constance Obasogie got married
This photo above shows the moment a cute Nigerian couple, Isaac and Constance Obasogie got married to each other.
The startling thing about the wedding was that the bride was
disabled and depended on using the wheelchair while the groom was whole.
It is quite an unusual sight for a man wthout a disability to tie the
knot with a disabled woman.
Photos of Constance and her husband, Isaac melted hearts of many Nigerians on July, 2016, when they got married.
Recently, the couple shared their love story in an interview with Kemiashefonlovehaven.
Below are excerpts from the interview:
Where did you meet each other?
Constance: In 2009 at the Delta State University, Abraka, where we were undergraduates. Isaac came to check on my roommate.
Isaac: I went to see a lady called Nancy because
she had a message for me from my dad. As I entered the room, I observed
that a particular bed was high and I asked who was using the bed. Nancy
explained that her roommate is on a wheelchair. Though Constance was not
around that day, as I was about leaving the room, the spirit of God
told me, “Tell her that she can walk.” I told Nancy and she said, it’s
true because Constance knew that she will still walk. I visited Nancy
again and luckily, I met Constance.
Constance: I had gone on a trip to Lagos and when
I returned; Nancy told me what he said. In 2010, he came to check on
Nancy again, who wasn’t around and I saw him for the first time. He
left. He came another weekend and we started talking about me and how I
coped with my challenge. He asked how I was making it to class. I
explained to him that a friend helped to take me for lectures which
wasn’t regular. In the first semester of my 100 level, I missed a lot of
classes due to this. So, Isaac volunteered to be taking me to and fro
classes and church. He now assured me that as long as he was in school,
he would come to take me to class and church. I didn’t believe him
initially but he came. He was studying Physics Electronics and I studied
Mass Communications. We worked around our time-tables and he would have
shuttle between campus, my hostel and his.
Isaac, when you graduated, who was taking her?
Isaac: I had to stay back in school after
graduation so as to help her with her movement. If I left, there would
be nobody to help her to class, church etc. I was exempted from national
youth service and I was offered a job in school. I stayed back for two
years and did other menial jobs to survive. After she graduated, we came
to Lagos.
Did you tell anyone in your family?
Isaac: No, I didn’t tell anybody.
What was the attraction to you when there were other girls who were not challenged?
Isaac: I can’t explain. First I saw a woman who is
respectful. Every man wants a woman who is respectful. Character, to
me, is beauty not the physical looks. Also, she won me over with the
food she cooked. I asked her if she would be the mother of my children
and she told me that she knew the first day I knocked on the door that I
would be her husband.
Did your family members know her as your fiancée?
Isaac: No, none knew. They knew that I had a friend who is on a
wheelchair, a gospel artiste, who we went out to minister together. They
never knew we were courting.
Constance, what made you think he would not deceive you?
Constance: I always pray on any issue. I knew I
needed someone that would be caring for a husband. So, before I got
admission to school, I prayed and told God that the man that would be my
husband would come to my house and knock on my door. I also said he
would not be fair, or too dark or too hairy. I gave all these conditions
so that when he comes, I would know. I told God that I don’t want
someone that would see my condition but someone that would see my
strength. Naturally, Isaac understands me. He does not see the weakness.
He knows how to operate the wheelchair.
At what stage of the friendship did he ask you out?
Constance: Almost a year after he met me.
How did you cope in school especially with snide remarks?
Constance: We were students and we didn’t come
from rich homes because they would have said we started dating because
he had money or because I had money. In my hostel, girls liked him and
called him ‘Bobo’. There was a particular girl who told me that he would
not marry you because all men are the same. I told her that all men are
not the same and if it’s God’s will, we will get married. I took a bet
with her because I was too sure.
How did he propose?
Constance: After my graduation, we came to Lagos
and a year after, he got a job. I got mine two days later. But he lost
his job after six months in 2015. I am still working though.
I was going to work one morning when a man on motorcycle snatched
my bag! It contained my phone and other valuables. During break at work,
Isaac came and we went to MTN office to retrieve my line. It was then
he decided to propose.
Why did you propose on the day her bag was snatched?
Isaac: I wanted to make her happy and I knew a proposal would do just that.
When you told your parents that you were getting married, what was the reaction?
Isaac: They said never! I told them that this is
what God really wants for me. They said that I am the first son of seven
children and that it’s a shame to the family. My father didn’t agree
and said I should go and marry but they would not come.
Did they come for the wedding?
Isaac: No.
But they must have heard and seen on social media?
Isaac: Yes, they saw it and my eldest sister
called to congratulate me. Others—my parents and younger siblings
didn’t. I have not called my father but I intend to apologise for
disobeying him. However, if I had married a woman not challenged our
wedding would not have been celebrated like it was. I pray that nothing
will separate us and I know she is going to walk.
How did you feel when you didn’t see your in-laws at the wedding?
Constance: I felt sad but I know in this part of
the world, it’s not easy accepting a condition like mine. I believe it a
lack of understanding and that with time they will understand. I put
myself and my parents in their shoes and tried thinking of the
reactions. I just believe that parents should allow children take some
decisions of life without hindrance. In life, one should expect good and
bad experiences and mine is no exception. With faith, we will conquer.
Is this challenge from birth?
Constance: No, according to my mum, it started
when I was two years old and before then I was walking. I fell ill, was
taken to the hospital in Benin. It was leg pain and I could not stand on
the leg. The doctor said he was going somewhere. That was around
1986-87. They took me home, next day she went to another hospital and I
was paralysed and could not walk or talk again. No hospital admitted me
and I was taken to a Chinese hospital, where it was diagnosed that all
my nerves had collapsed. I always thank God because now I can talk, I’m a
songwriter, a poet, I sing and I do all sorts. I went to school,
graduated, have a job and now married. I know very soon we will have our
children.
Do you quarrel?
Constance: Not really even when there is a small argument, we settle it. It must not pass that minute.
How have you handled the issue of finance in marriage?
Constance: We don’t have big money but the little
we have, we are sincere and open to each other. We plan, and we both
know that our money is ours. Couple should be open to each other.
How many children do you plan to have?
Isaac: We pray for a set of twin boys and then a girl.
How do you cope with a physically challenged partner?
Well, since she is the one employed now and goes to work, she cooks
everything in the morning. We have structured our apartment in a way
she can move around freely with her wheelchair. She washes clothes and
we do chores together. When I was working I would take her to the office
and then go to my office.
Constance: Whenever he is not around, a tricycle operator helps transport me to the office. I’m coping very well.
Do other women try to discourage you?
Isaac: No. My mind is made up that this is who I want and who I will spend the rest of my life with.
Aside your job, what else do you do?
Constance: I’m a gospel artiste; write songs, and a
motivational singer. I have over 300 songs that I have written. I also
make beads. All the accessories I used for my wedding were designed by
me.
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