Although
Nigeria is making positive progress in not only realising women's
rights but also investing in them, there are still barriers in society
which are making this endeavour more challenging.
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In the average Nigerian home, male children are raised quite
differently from females. The boys are given privileges that girls are
deprived of. Girls are expected to conform to certain norms or live up
to certain standards, that boys are not.
From birth, the female child is already placed to accept that she
is indeed a different sex and to an extent inferior. The society further
conditions her to believe to that she must act or a be a certain way.
She is expected to accept certain mediocrities, to be successful. Thus,
leading her to a limited understanding of her possibilities and
capacities – particularly her physical and intellectual abilities.
This also interferes with her ability to the make choices that lead
to independence and personal fulfilment. Even more, she is forced to
endure certain mistreatments that become barriers on her path to
attaining her unique self and achieving her full potential.
Studies have since shown that when you believe and invest in girls,
the whole world benefits. And although Nigeria is making positive
progress in not only realising women’s rights but also investing in
them, there are still barriers in society (unique to women) which are
making this endeavour more challenging.
Stereotypical ideas of femininity
This is the biggest barrier females in Nigeria face. Despite the
many legal, cultural and intellectual challenges that have called it
into question, gender stereotyping remains entrenched in Nigerian
society. Our society has a set of ideas about how we expect men and
women to dress, behave, and present themselves and women are forced to
define themselves in relation to this gender stereotypes, thus their
self-concept is shaped by these stereotypical ideas of femininity.
These ideas usually come in four ways:
Personality traits where women are expected to be polite,
accommodating, emotional and nurturing, as opposed to being
self-confident and aggressive;
Domestic behaviours where women are expected to get married, take
care of the children, cook, and clean the home, rather than handle
finances or do the home repairs;
Occupations where they are encouraged to study soft courses like
teaching and nursing, as opposed to pursuing STEM related courses or
taking on jobs as pilots, engineers, e.t.c;
Physical appearance where women are expected to be thin, petite and graceful, as opposed to being tall and muscular.
These stereotypical ideas serve as huge barriers, as they instil in
these women, ideas of who they truly are and deny them of the chance to
fully express themselves and their potentials. Most women in Nigeria
feel that they’re not allowed to be independent, smart or assertive.
These ideas create unequal or unfair treatments to women who choose
to defy the society’s assumption about what it is to be a woman.
Breaking down gender stereotypes will allow women in Nigeria to be their
best selves, thus achieve their full potentials.
Patriarchal barricades
The Nigerian society is a male-dominated one. The Nigerian family
features a power system which advocates a pecking order that depends on
generation, age and gender. The elders are normally superior to the
younger generation, and men are absolutely superior to women.
Traditions, religions and norms tread on these lines of patriarchy. They
deem women incapable of handling power and responsibility whether
political, economic or social. Patriarchal values imbibed within society
have been projected and reinforced through the years through
male-dominated institutions which have internalized the idea that the
woman was inferior.
Society continuously refuses to believe that a woman can take
charge of affairs and is capable of making decisions that are binding to
everyone. Thus, being a woman becomes an impediment to achieving
certain goods, at every level and in very different social and
professional contexts. Such patriarchal mindset makes it hard for women
to pursue their rights, chase their authentic dreams or fulfil their
potential.
Standards of white femininity
Nigerians were colonized by the British; it is understandable that
the effect of colonization is still so evident in the way the country’s
system functions. And while major benefits can be accrued to this
colonization, one of its persistent cons is the limiting standard it has
set for the Nigerian girl/woman.
Nigerian girls, in particular, have long endured the struggle to
conform to a standard of white femininity full of clichés and sexist
paradigms. They grow up inserted into a culture that teaches them to
admire the Barbie dolls with soft long hair and other thin, white/ pale
skin characters that wind up in happy endings of prosperity. These young
women then believe that they are “different” and thus suffer from not
feeling beautiful.
They are then forced to perm their hair, bleach their skin, go
through sugery to have the perfect nose, and speak in a certain way or
act “posh”, so as to fit the European standards of beauty. Conforming to
these far-fetched expectations based on comparison to white femininity
is such a strong requirement, so much that the ones who dare to maintain
kinky/curly hair, a broad nose and dark skin have to deal with a
mentality of scarcity and fear, e.g., thinking they are not good enough.
Competence-likability trade-off
Usually, this stems from gender stereotypes. Competence-likability
trade-off highlights the seeming choice between being respected and
being liked. If a woman acts differently from how her gender is assumed
to behave, then they she is not likeable because she has not conformed
to the norm.
For example: assertive women are called “bitches” and “whores” and
tagged “off-limits”. The society through its norms creates a sort of
obsession in women for the image they portray. It shows women to
downplay femininity, or to soften a hard-charging style, or to try to
strike a perfect balance between the two. They end up spending so much
of their time and energy on managing these perceptions, setting
themselves up for self-defeat as it lessens the emotional and
motivational resources available for larger purposes. These women focus
on how others perceive them, and in doing so, become less clear about
their goals, less open to learning from failure, and less capable of
self-regulation.
Can you think of other barriers and how they can be tackled?
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Source: BellaNaija
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